your words, my feelings!

1.  =Do not simply praise one's child(ren)=
incident happened:
there was someone told my mum that: 你的女儿都长大了可以帮你做家务!!/你女儿很厉害!会读书又能帮你做家务！
comment:
hey aunty uncle!! we are not clever!  we are not obedient!!! although we are girls but we don't like to do house work!!! so please don't praise us la!! i beg you! we are not that good! we are lazy!! stop praising us with this stupid things! you are just satirizing her and we will end out get scolded by mum only! you praise us,  we get scolded! i dun like it and i hate it, personally!


2.  =As parents, never grumble to your child(ren) about your financial problem=
incident happened: 
mum kept on mentioning that she have no enough money for ME to go anywhere else to study [the furthest you can go is WEST MALAYSIA-->UTAR ONLY] since J1, although i have no idea what to study.. but  i have planned to study abroad.. to Australia... to UK...
comment:
i always dream of it but i know it will not befall on me! and now, my sis and I are about to further our studies at West Malaysia.and yea... i know it will cost a lot! i start not to consider UK blablablabla... so what if i study one of the UK universities in Malaysia(NOTTINGHAM)? annoying stuff will come across me.. lalalalala~ money money money!! study study study!! so i have made a conclusion, for my own. "Get everything ready[(cost for study, cost for food, cost for anything....), i mean... prepare the everything in EXCESS] before you plan to have children" dun keep on telling your children that you have no money.. what can they do to help you? not continue to study but find a job now? help you to earn money? i duno =.= so maybe it's my problem..

4.  =As parents, do not simply scold your childf(ren) or accused them!=
incident happened:
sometimes when i have really done my part, my mum will scold me that i didn't do my work blablabla.. ngam ngam ngam... scold scold scold... non-stop! when i told her i had finished earlier, she would just say: you should do more!! not only doing this... so i was thinking, when can i stop doing this kind of stuff... i really dun like to do that but i do it, you will never ever praise me or whatever... you will continue to ngam... this is waht we said: 鸡蛋里挑骨头/“沿尖”(hakka slang)
comment:
think before you scold! never feel HARD to praise someone! you won't get hurt if you give compliment to someone else!

5.  =As an adult, never say bad words of the child(ren)'s parents in front of them=
incident happened:
my aunt kept complaining that my dad always went fishing and didnt help my mum blablablablabla... all i can do at that moment was to keep my ears shut!! i hate people say my dad!! you have no the right to criticise him!
comment:
you will spoil the image of the parents in front of their child(ren). They are born to love their parents, not to think how bad are their parents. So, don't give negative comments about their dad and mum!!! never, ever! coz you will definitely hurt them, 100%!! so the same thing, think before you talk!!!

ISM Recycle Activity 2012

This morning(Saturday, 24.11.2012) went to Eastern Plaza(again!!!) to collect those boxes and newspapers. 

so the activity started at 9am but i was late.. >.<" woke up late and realised that most of the shops in EP will start their business around 10.30am @@ so me and siaw kiat and fish chin had our breakfast at McD before we went to collect the stuff... we reached there at 10 and yea... MOST OF THE SHOPS HAD NOT OPENED YET!!! we juz got a little only.. straightly felt depressed... we couldn't go back with that little thingy... and thanks God! we became very busy after that [happy and contented] and we got boxes and newspaper and even clothes from the shops!! I was like HUH, WHY CLOTHES when i saw the clothes... [a bit worried coz our head mentioned that we have to collect papers only.. i dun wan to get scolded.. i juz wan to get all my things done and go home!!] but when we sent all the things back to school, i saw there were also packs of clothes... and i got my mind that : "Tzu Chi needs these clothes too! " i had read a news about the Tzu Chi people need these clothes to be sent to USA for the people over there as the place had  juz experienced Sandy + the weather was getting very cold + snowing... The people need the clothes badly to keep themselves warm.. so i think the clothes we had collected might helped out a little :P haha so later around 8 sumthing, we will send those stuff we had collected to Hing Hwa Primary School to do "classification" with Tzu Chi... aww.. gonna be a loong day for me >.<"